Kids are interesting creatures. I always find it interesting to watch how they interact with each other the first time. Coming from a mom of two who don’t have a sky bone in their body I know they will just be ready to go. They play a little rough will splash you in the face with no remorse but then will also share their candy with you.
I find it hard sometimes when it comes with these interactions, our daughter splashed our friends daughter while in the pool over the weekend. She was super upset about it, while ours just smiled that smiled. Part pride and part give me a break. Of course there wasn’t anything to get upset about, a day in the sun, a long drive, lack of naps all that comes into play with kids. Makes me think about us as adults though. We tell our kids to ask the offender not to do something and to please be nice. When we as adults are offended how often do we ask them not to do that or say that? i think that there comes a point in time where we just stop asking. We stop asking for what we want or need and either just do it on our own or walk away from the person who hurt us and cut ties, or just never resolve things.
When does it change? When do we feel that we are no longer allowed to discus our feelings, or how something has made us feel. As kids its almost daily we tell them to talk it out or over or ask or listen. Yet all of a sudden we are adults and we aren’t speaking to friends or family because of something someone did to us. It’s easier to just ignore the problem or person than it is to face what the actual problem was in the first place. Maybe just a little food for thought. Ive spent the weekend with lots of kids and personality’s watching the interactions. Ive been thinking about how we continually repeat and ask our kids to behave one way but we still as adults aren’t doing that in our lives. I am definitely not throwing blame because I am for sure to blame for not following my advice to my own kids. When does that change? Elementary? High school? It becomes acceptable to ignore problems once your out of the toddler/infant stage in life. So why do we bother now trying to teach them how to deal with problems? I mean I get why we do, it would be anarchy otherwise, but you know what I am saying.
So maybe today, step back from your life for a minute and take a look around. What issues are you facing today that could take a lot of stress off your shoulders by just confronting it head on. It’s terrifying right? But how much could you get rid of if you just let things go, talked it through, or told someone how they actually made you feel. I’m throwing down a challenge. I hope you accept.
Much love
Xoxo
Simone
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