No one knows your children like you do. So when you tell someone don’t give them that, they don’t have to hug you, they don’t feel comfortable with you. Back the hell off. There aren’t many time that I’ll get up and at em except when I’m pushed to the brink. So when I have said repeatedly not to do something concerning my kids. Listen. Doesn’t matter if you are a relative or friend, I am the parent my word goes.
We don’t make our kids hug you even if you are family. If you don’t make the effort to be a part of their lives we wont force them to show you affection. I am not a hugger myself so I definitely wouldn’t want my kids to feel like they need to when they see people. Ive had a few uncomfortable moments where I should turned my head left instead of right and then our faces touch and I cringe. So I’m good with a fist bump, remember that.
So when you see the kids don’t expect any affection because you more than likely wont get any unless they initiate it. I’ll never understand why people push themselves onto kids. We don’t force ourselves onto adults in the same manor, there’s a unwritten unsaid rule unless we are close to those people a handshake or head nod goes. So stop and think before you force your child into an uncomfortable situation just because it’s family.
We need to stop expecting children to follow a different set of rules than the adults. Then wonder why they behave the way they do. Everything we do is based off of what is best for our kids once we become parents. Some people aren’t as verbal as hey would like, and probably have a lot of “i should have said that” moments. I have a few as well where I wish I had reacted differently, wether it was something I said to the kids or not said to an adult. Every day is a learning experience, there are no perfect parents, but that doesn’t mean you don’t continue to try and better yourself.
Let’s remember the village we all need, and in that village of help and support please don’t forget the biggest part. Respect. Respect the child’s wishes and remember to show the parents respect. That’s it. That’s all I got.
So keep spreading that love you really never know what one small act of kindness can do for someone. Respect those boundaries. And don’t be afraid to ask for help (we’ll touch on that soon!)
Much love
Xoxo
Simone
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